Despite all of our country’s progresses in regard to women’s rights and freedoms there comes a point where we have to ask the question; How “equal” do women really want to be?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m no woman hater…I am, however, a realist. All things being equal in a relationship, a man should and would be expected to do the cooking, cleaning, washing, etc as needed if it fit better into his schedule than hers. (Right now I can hear feminists clapping and cheering.) BUT: All things being equal in a relationship, a woman should and would be expected to be the primary wage earner, protect the household, do repairs, take the trash out, etc as needed if it fit better into her schedule than his. (Wait…why did it get so quiet?)

Like I said before, I’m no woman hater…I’m a realist. The reality is (whether you choose to accept it or not) that GENERALLY SPEAKING the male is usually stronger, more physically intimidating, and socially groomed to accept certain tasks more willingly than others. By that same measure GENERALLY SPEAKING the female is usually more nurturing, a better multitasker, and socially groomed to accept certain tasks more than others.

It is not at all to say that women can’t take trash out or that men can’t to dishes but let’s be honest; how many ladies view taking the trash out to be a “man’s job” (and I mean in your head, not vocally…don’t worry, I’m not judging you)? How many guys view doing dishes to be a “woman’s job” (don’t start getting defensive now, I made the men the target first!)?

Dictionary.com defines feminism as “the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.” I am in full support of the spirit of this but I take issue with the fact that it is basically impossible…wait and let me explain.

Dictionary.com defines equal as “1.as great as; the same as 2.like or alike in quantity, degree, value, etc.; of the same rank, ability, merit, etc. 3.evenly proportioned or balanced” while it defines equivalent as “1.equal in value, measure, force, effect, significance, etc.2.corresponding in position, function, etc.”

That ever so slight splinter of a difference (go ahead and re-read them) is like the splinter in your eye…didn’t seem like a big deal until it was in a very sensitive, vital location. Men and women are not (and never will be) the same…
1.it doesn’t even make sense to expect us to be. if we were, we’d be asexual (and really…would that be any fun???).
2.”like or alike in quantity…” really?
So is this like The Soviet Union vs The U.S. of A. in the space race? Are we playing dominoes? No? Well why the competition? I understand that men have kept women down for centuries and centuries but to compare every accomplishment that women have with that of a man is a little juvenille…isn’t it? Now as for equivalent, it says “equal in value…corresponding in position…” Isn’t that preferential? Not racing each other but on the same level as each other, “fair & balanced” (to borrow part of Faux News’s tagline).

I don’t expect you to do the dishes and wash the clothes just because you have two legs not three…but don’t expect me to take the garbage out just because I have three legs not two…

😉

El Negro